The Ghosting Generation

It is common in our society lately to hear stories of people who someday decide to cut off from another person that is very close to them. It seems they disappear completely from the lives of their beloved ones. Most of the time, we talk about boyfriends and girlfriends, while sometimes, even friends decide to treat us this way. Men usually adopt this behavior since women prefer to solve their issues using dialogue. The extent of this phenomenon has led us to talk about the ghosting generation, as this seems to have become a trend. People act like a ghost, and we suddenly stop hearing from them. They do not warn us, and one day they stop answering phone calls and act as if they don’t know us. Why would someone behave like that? Today we talk about the four main reasons that lead people to such a behavior.

1. Avoiding drama
   The number one reason why someone would become a ”ghost” is to avoid drama. At this point, I take for granted that the person does not want to keep in touch with the other and does not care to have a relationship of any kind with the person they abandoned. If there is one thing they want to do, it is to move on fast as soon as possible. For example, taking the time to talk about the reasons they want to break up will take time. They are probably not the type of people willing to sacrifice that for others.
2. Digging the past
   The ghosting behavior is extreme either way. At this point, it is worth taking some time to glimpse the individual’s past. We will often see people who have been treated in a similar way in the past. People whose of their caregivers have abandoned them are more likely to turn to such choices. Leaving the other person high and dry is not an action of cruelty, the way they see it. They believe the other person will find the strength to overcome the drama as they did themselves and move on with their lives. In some cases, people may even try to take revenge by hurting the other person just like they have been hurt in the past. The fact that they cannot fight with the person who abandoned them in the past (because they are simply away) creates hate and anger that must be expressed in some way. People who have been abused have more chances to become abusive, and abandonment is a form of abuse.
3. Fear of rejection
   Another scenario is that the person who acts like that has a low opinion of themselves. Perhaps they have detected your rejection towards their personality and want to act fast. Before you end the relationship with them, they do it on their own. If they disappear completely, they will not have to hear your version of the story, which might be very hard for them to handle. People who think highly of themselves would never fear open dialogue and sincere discussion.
4. Absence of feelings
   Lastly, let’s not exclude the category of those people who are genuinely insensitive to other people’s feelings and will act in a way that proves their insensitivity. These people will not be hurt if someone else acts like that towards them either. If someone abandons them, they will not be devasted, and they will be completely rational about it, acting like robots. These people are not to be misunderstood; this is simply their temper. Don’t assume they have spent any serious time thinking about it and what would be the best thing to do. They probably did not weigh the advantages and disadvantages of this choice anyway. They are not unfair; they are just not like the majority of the population. They have a poor emotional world, but perhaps they have different gifts and skills that are also valuable among the members of society.

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