Recognizing Victims and Abusers – Behaviors we can Detect

Abuse in human history goes a long way. As time goes by, the dynamics in social interaction evolve, and both victims and abusers change their approach towards life and other people. Today, I will talk about the characteristics and personality of each category and see the role of positive thinking in changing behaviors.

Who is the abuser?
The abuser exists because someone is their victim. But why does the victim exist? What are the victim’s psychology and behavior? To understand the victim, we should first get to know the abusers’ profile and their characteristics. So the abuser rarely abandons their role because they will lose their power. The power and the influence they have are the characteristics that keep them on their “throne”. The abuser knows what the right thing to do to keep their possessions is, and in no way do they negotiate their opinions and actions.

What are the characteristics of the abuser?

• suspicious
• manipulative
• wants to be the center of attention
• has unreal expectations from others
• rejects others
• insensitive to the needs and feelings of others
• oppresses others to feel powerful and important
• impulsive, impatient, and irritable
• insults and despises
• All of the above characteristics the abuser will use depend on the people they associate with. Surely they will unravel all their ”talent” with the victim they will choose on a personal, professional, or friendly level.

Who is the victim?
The victim is the abuser of themselves because they are already harming themselves in various ways before an abuser enters their lives. Victim does not believe in their own strengths, capabilities, and feelings, which is why they can identify the “strength” of other people, such as the abusers. In order to keep his victim on the alert, the perpetrator promises or implies various things which they will never carry out but takes care to blame the victim for this.
It is important to realize that victims have common behaviors that make them vulnerable to other people. If good people surround them, nothing wrong is going to happen to them. However, they are more likely to fall into their trap if they come across people who want to take advantage of them.
There is no victim without an abuser, and vice versa. Still, the personalities of these people are shaped long before they meet with someone that will prove to play a catastrophic role in their lives. It is funny that, in many cases, the victim does not recognize the abuser as a person who is hurting them. On the other hand, they believe they are there to help them and often admire them.

What are the characteristics of the victim?

• wants to believe the promises given to them
• takes care of the needs of others and not of themselves
• subordinates to the requirements of others
• feels guilty
• is easily impressed
• resorts to addictive behaviors to calm down
• has no limits
• is afraid to say their point of view
• idolizes the abuser
• is afraid to take risks
• To change the victim and get rid of the submissive attitude, they will have to realize the harm that they do to themselves and activate the internal forces that always exist and will lead them to work on all the elements that will allow them to define their lives

Positive thinking as a powerful tool
The main issue with the people who tend to become victims is that they lack confidence and they are generally scared. Fear creates pessimism, and people will finally need someone to rely on. Positive thinking is a fairly powerful technique, and using it with the right methodology would be good. Each of us can try it out. This strategy will certainly lead to the elaboration of different styles of thinking. The possible answers a person may come up with will certainly be original and imaginative. Moreover, using positive thinking leads to forming new thoughts and ideas by rejecting the old ones. This method also enhances curiosity and critical thinking and is a great way to practice one’s thinking.

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