How The Personality Is Conceived – Will We Ever Meet Ourselves?

Who we are is the fundamental question we have to answer to find a fulfilling purpose in our lives. Three views offer valuable information that we can use to get closer to our inner selves. Let us have a look.

1. What others see in us

   What others think of us is not just their opinion. It directly affects us, and of course, let us remember that it might be a correct guess. In other words, it works in both directions. Let us start with the fact that their opinion could weigh. Things that we cannot detect in ourselves because we are being subjective are what others can easily see. Not to be misunderstood, these do not have to be necessarily negative characteristics. Not a few are the times when people have a variety of features on them that they are uncomfortable with and refuse to see anyway.
   For instance, an intelligent person may feel guilty because they have a brighter mind than others. To avoid feeling guilty, they will subconsciously refuse that they are smart. The result is that others can notice their intelligence, but they will not see why they don’t realize how smart they are. Others will notice how smart they are, but they will not detect the feelings of guilt that come along. So, others may see some true things, but they may not be able to capture the whole picture.
   The other phenomenon works in the other direction. Regardless of whether their opinion is based on true facts, it tends to affect us, and it finally turns out to be true. Children who are told they are smart are more likely to believe in their abilities and develop the creativity it takes to become smart. Therefore, we could say that our reflection on the world is of great importance and cannot be underestimated.

2. Who we think we are

   The way we perceive our personality is also weird. It can often be an illusion without us realizing it. What we believe about ourselves has a greater impact on us than the impact other people’s opinions have, after all. The way that others’ opinion affects us is because, in the end, it becomes our opinion. Trusting their opinion is not the only choice we have. Some people do not care about what others think and do not embrace their thoughts. The stronger the idea of our ego is, the less it is possible to get affected by people’s beliefs.
   At the same time, there are things that we believe about ourselves regardless of what others might think. They act in an exact way on our personality. They can have a great effect, but that does not mean they are the right assumptions. A very common example can be found in the fact that most of us underestimate our abilities. It is true that human existence has so many potentials that most of us are unaware of. And this is not something that happens to one single individual. Almost everyone underestimates their potential. Even the most successful people have areas where they consider themselves weaker than they are.

3. Who we truly are

   Who we are indeed, after all, is very hard to answer. Clues can only be given to understand the greatness of our existence. It is more likely to discover ourselves in two cases. Our beautiful strength is usually revealed when we are in danger. The other case appears in these rare moments when we sit alone and imagine seeing ourselves from far away. This mental image of our picture and the difficulties we face every day allows us to be more indulgent and understand that our accomplishments do not determine our value. In the first case, we can see how powerful we are, and in the second case, we can realize this is not even the point and that our wisdom goes a long way above that.

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