Advising Victims On How To Deal With Abuse

We all have toxic people in our social environment, but abuse goes far beyond that. Whether we talk about psychological, sexual, or physical abuse, the scars that this will leave on a victim’s soul are numerous. While society stands on the victims’ side and awareness has been raised over this matter, it is mainly the victims that can save themselves. We have to show them our support and let them know how they can react. The victims are often so absorbed in their challenging situation that they do not have the courage to organize their thoughts on how they can move on. It is those who are outside the problem who can give them a hint and actually offer crucial help. Can you imagine the tremendous effects abuse has on children? It is often the mothers that will protect them, and if they are incapable of defending themselves, they are not expected to help their little kids either. Building a better society is about education and respect. Until these tragic situations disappear, we have a long road to go until we are able to reassure our kids that they will live in a safe world.

Here is what a victim can do to deal with abuse and everything we have to tell them.

1. Identify the problem
   Starting with identifying the problems, victims should then see what they can do about them. Before moving to how they will move on, we have to point out that identification is more than crucial. For a person to realize what is happening to them, they have to be informed about what abuse is. This way, when they see particular behaviors from the abuser, they will be able to identify them and see they will have an escape from that situation.
2. Ask for help
   Most victims are not expected to get over an unhealthy situation if they do not use the help of a professional or a structured institute that will advise them on what their next steps should be to protect themselves. Sometimes, even the life of the victim may be in danger. It is vital to evaluate the importance of this condition and let professionals be the Saviors. Unfortunately, victims will have to go on their own in most cases. Unless a neighbor or someone who is significantly sensitive about these issues calls the police, these incidents will never be known and will never be resolved if the victim does not ask for help.
3. Set boundaries
   From the moment a victim realizes they are deep down in this problematic condition, their way out will take a while. Since it will not happen in just one day, it is essential to understand how they will have to act until they get out of it. The first thing is that they will have to set some boundaries. The abuser will attempt to take advantage of the victim as much as they can. This means that the victim will have to start being assertive and strict. In addition to that, one has to work from within to be able to stand for themselves. We have to have some self-confidence that will allow us to see that we can do it. Last but not least, they will have to get some distance from the abuser and not take their accusations personally.
4. Make a plan
   Getting out of a situation like that demands a plan. The reason is that the behavior is probably repetitive, and a pattern has already been created. This means that things have moved too much, but it also puts the victim in the position of the leader again. The victims are usually more sensible than the abusers. The reason is that the victims are not the ones who have energetically chosen the situation. This means that they are obviously more stable psychologically. This strength can be used wisely and help the victims drastically to escape the trap. A pattern has been created because they know what to expect, and therefore, they can be prepared. While the abuser will waste their time to ”have their fun,” the victims will carefully plan their next steps. Talking with a professional about specific incidents will allow them to characterize the abuser and let the victim know what they should do in each case to detach and ensure their safety.