The Challenges of Introverted Females in Leadership Roles in the Workplace

Women earning leadership positions in this country is nearly impossible. If you add the word introvert to it as well, it may seem like your chances of becoming a leader are pretty bleak.

However, I’m a woman, and I’m an introvert, and I like to believe that I’m a leader, having been in executive positions at companies, as well as an entrepreneur, for the past six years. If you think about what a leader should be, it’s not so far off from a female introvert.

A leader should be thoughtful, strategic and inspire others. A leader should make sound decisions with quick reaction times. A leader should be accountable and responsible for the team.

If you make a list of the actual leadership skills you want to have in your leadership roles, you soon discover that introvert and female really don’t matter.

The issue is the perception. You think of The Wolf of Wall Street, or some similar version. Our mental bias instantly goes to the extroverted man.

I would argue that those folks may, or may not, have the skills you need. If you recognize your own biases when hiring and promoting, it will significantly help you find someone most qualified, and leadership is too critical a role not to consider carefully.

If you are an introverted female reading this, who aspires to a leadership role, I urge you to grow in your strongest areas and continuously capitalize on your strengths.

Make lateral moves across the organization and develop a holistic knowledge of your business. This will give you more informed decision-making capabilities, which is a tough type of value to find from anyone inside of a business.

What you cannot do is wait to be noticed. Introverts, and women, both suffer from this fate. You don’t have to grab the mic and yell to get the attention of the boardroom.

Show value, consistently, and to the right people. If the value you bring is worthwhile, that should be your magic formula. And if it isn’t, ask yourself how many other women leaders there are in your organization. If institutional sexism is the problem, it may be time for you to find your path elsewhere.

While I urge women to pursue entrepreneurship as an alternative path to financial freedom, I would be remiss if I didn’t say that the struggle for the female entrepreneur is real.

In my personal opinion, working for yourself saves you from those workplace statistics you see rampant: women get fewer promotions, less representation in leadership, lower pay, harsher criticisms, etc. Since I can’t harass myself, I feel a sense of safety from the #METOO stuff in my daily work, but that’s about where the safety net ends.

The truth is that the entrepreneurial environment has its own unique set of struggles for a female. Researchers recently found that while female founders yield a higher return on investment, investors are far less likely to invest in them. I am involved with raising capital for our company, Digits, now. I can’t help but wonder how real these statistics are, but it certainly feels depressing to know that women may run a better business, but we receive less investment. In my purely female-owned venture, DigitalUnicorns, I just pray we don’t ever need to fundraise, given the harsh statistics pointing against us. Outside of funding, female entrepreneurs tend to be overlooked as having the chops to run a business.

There’s the infamous story of Birchbox getting turned down time and time again despite being a home run of an idea. You want to sell people free samples? Yes please.

Prior to my current portfolio of companies, I’ve had male employees’ wives refuse to let their husbands work with me. I’ve had a boardroom full of men never make eye contact. I’ve even been accused of sleeping my way into client engagements. I’ve yet to understand the functionality of that assertion, given that procurement offices do not accept sex to my knowledge.

I survive by always keeping a network of male friends teach me the ropes of being a man in business, and coming up with clever workarounds whenever I get stuck. As women, our only way of succeeding is to find people who we aspire to be, and build the type of relationships where we level each other up.

The people who work closely with me definitely do not portray the average male-dominant statistics, and if they do, they aren’t around me for long.

Nevertheless, be strong and keep your head up. Not so long ago we couldn’t vote, and I think not so long in the future all of this talk about women as a minority group in business will be a remnant of the past.