This article could focus on how to make a partner’s parents like you, however, the recipe is simple and it applies on many occasions when you get to meet with elder people who are related to people who are important to you. Below you will find some top tips on how to make them like you and break the ice.
- The first impression is always critical.
According to scientists most of our impression about individuals we get to meet is being created during the first 90 minutes of our interaction with them. So it is better to be prepared and make sure you are acting properly at least regarding the small things that you can control. For example, showing up on time for the meeting you have scheduled is a perfect opportunity to show your respect to them. In addition, you have to dress properly; this is not a social event where you gather with friends of your own age casually. Last but not least, in case you are invited to their place to dine or even for a cup of coffee consider bringing a small gift showing your appreciation for their invitation. These are all signs of good manners that you have probably been told from your own family and they will make a good impression.
- Let them know that you admire their children
Saying a good word about their son or daughter will not hurt. Besides, it is not going to be a lie cause you obviously like them since you like to hang out with them. Focusing on things that are real is important. Don’t try to make up stuff that is not real. The parents of your partner know him better than you do and they will recognize the intentions behind your words. Kindly point out how you believe that a child is the reflection of a parent’s personality. This way you compliment both their precious kids and themselves also.
- Don’t hesitate to talk about yourself
Starting with a compliment about their children is important to make them feel safe. At the same time, you are aware that they are anxious to find out who their children are spending their time with. Calm their worries by saying a few things about yourself. Remember to be discrete, otherwise, your compliments about yourself will not be well received. If your mate wants to say a good word about you in front of their parents this is even better. It’s always better to have someone say good things about ourselves instead of us.
- Ask open-ended questions
Most of the time, older people are more relaxed when they communicate with people of younger ages. However, there are cases where things may become uncomfortable and none of you will have anything interesting to say. Instead of trying to show off and make a good impression relax and try to get to know them. This way you will create a human, warm, and kind relationship with them. The best way to do that is by asking them things about themselves, their lives, their likes, and their dislikes. Things they can develop in a few words and that can work as a landscape where you can start a conversation. Avoid questions that can be answered with a simple yes or no, not leaving space for further communication. Also, keep in mind that you don’t want to bring them in a difficult position, so if you have questions regarding something like a divorce or any painful and uncomfortable experience simply avoid them. Prefer things that will make them feel proud of themselves and that they will like to talk about.
- Show your intentions
Last but not least, apart from creating a nice atmosphere it would be nice to make the parents feel safe by revealing your good intentions towards their family. Let them know that paying them a visit is a sign that you see their children with serious intentions. You don’t have to imply that you are about to propose. A simple sign that implies that you see a future with them will be enough, something like planning your next trip that will include their kid will be a perfect hint for the occasion.