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Here Are 5 Kinds of People Who Can Help You Get Past the Toxic People in Your Life

It’s no secret that we all have toxic people at work and in our personal lives. It seems like no matter how great our job is, or what a wonderful life we’re living, there’s always that one person who tries to bring us down. Why? I’m convinced that, nine times out of ten, it’s to make them feel better about the unhappy life they’re living.

Sometimes, no matter what you do, you can’t help these toxic people get past whatever negatives keep them stuck in their toxic ruts. In that case, it makes more sense to seek out the positive kinds of people who you should invite into your life and keep close.

Here are five kinds of positive people that will help you find the success you want and need in your own life, while avoiding the people who want to keep tearing you down.

  1. Happy people
    It should go without saying that the more happy people we get in our life, the better. Happy people rub off on the people around them—reducing the negativity as they raise the positivity. It’s almost like a chemical reaction—a change in the environment that is as swift as it is welcome by those who experience it. Seek out happy people and stick close to them.
  2. Leaders
    Leaders take you to places you may have not imagined were possible—pushing you beyond your comfort levels, but in a good way. They help you grow and build the kind of self-confidence you need to do more and be more.
  3. Listeners
    One of the problems with many toxic people is that they constantly talk and they never listen. Or, if they listen, they obviously don’t care what you have to say. The good news is that there are people in your work and personal life who do care and who will listen more than they talk. Seek out people who make you feel valued even when you are unsure whether or not your words matter. They do.
  4. Thought provokers
    Some people are great at helping us evaluate where we’re at in our life and career, and whether or not we’re in the right place. When you’re working with toxic people, you’ve got a choice: either help them find ways to become less toxic, or figure out how to ignore them, or find another place to work. Thought provokers will help you work through these different options, evaluating for yourself what course you should take to get the toxic people who are in your life today out of your life tomorrow.
  5. Storytellers
    Stories help us see that there are other options and alternatives and courses of action we can pursue when we find ourselves in a toxic environment. Find the kind of storytellers who tell good stories and who will help motivate you to shake off the complacency you’re feeling and to choose adventure over remaining stuck in the status quo.

Written by Peter Economy. Follow CEOWORLD magazine on FacebookTwitterInstagram, and LinkedIn.

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Peter Economy
Peter Economy is a Wall Street Journal bestselling ghostwriter and author of more than 100 books (with more than 3 million copies sold) including What, I’m Working with Who?!? and Wait, I'm the Boss?!? He’s also the Leadership Guy at Inc.com, which averages over 500,000 page views a month for his more than 1,500 columns published to date.

Peter Economy Books:
Writing Fiction For Dummies (For Dummies (Language & Literature)).
Wait, I'm Working With Who?!?: The Essential Guide to Dealing with Difficult Coworkers, Annoying Managers, and Other Toxic Personalities.
Wait, I'm the Boss?!?: The Essential Guide for New Managers to Succeed from Day One.

Education:
Bachelor of Arts in Economics at Stanford University.
Postgraduate Certificate in Business Administration at Heriot-Watt University.

Peter Economy is an opinion columnist for the CEOWORLD magazine. You can follow him on LinkedIn.