“If someone asks me a question, ‘What is it you see when you look out the window that is visible but not yet seen by others’ I will answer, ‘I see a world filled with people with a huge potential lying untapped. If I can identify their strengths and inspire them to unlock their potential, I feel that I have made a difference in the world.’” —Professor M.S. Rao
All human beings have a dialogue within themselves throughout their waking hours. It is known as ‘internal dialogue’ or ‘self-talk’. It is also known as ‘internal monologue’. It is very powerful when you use it effectively. However, it becomes a noise when you don’t listen to others during the conversation. We can use it effectively throughout the day by practicing or thinking about positive aspects. You can use your internal dialogue during your leisure time or traveling time about your goals to achieve greater success in your life.
Avoid Negative Thoughts
At times when things go out of the way, people spiral out of control, wallow in self-pity, get dazed and confused, and feel a sense of paralysis. Instead, they must fortify themselves, treat their obstacles as challenges, and explore solutions to overcome their challenges effectively. It is possible when you channel your internal dialogue positively, proactively, and productively.
Avoid negative conversations such as ‘I am a big failure’, ‘I alone have problems frequently’, ‘all bad things happen to me only’, ‘people are cheats’, ‘I don’t get decent employment’, ‘there is some invisible force that obstructs me always’ and so on.
When people are confronted with negative experiences and constant failures, they develop negative internal dialogue. Such people must take extreme care to convert their negative conversations into healthy conversations. They must look at the door that is opened, not the closed one. They must see the rising sun, not the setting sun. They must surround with positive people. They must constantly feed their minds with their past achievements and success to convert their internal dialogue into a healthy and fruitful conversation. Although it is easier said than done, it is possible when people possess high willpower. They must hold their thoughts for 21 seconds.
Hold Your Thoughts for 21 Seconds
Don’t waste your time with a futile and useless conversation with yourself. Replace them with positive ideas. Hold your thoughts for 21 seconds positively, and you can convert them into fruitful conversation. Whenever you get any negative thoughts, have control over them for a few seconds, and try to replace them with positive thoughts and you can bounce back with a bang. Whenever you find yourself under depression, you must hold positive thoughts for 21 seconds and you will be amazed to find yourself staying motivated. You must hold thoughts about your past achievements or events for 21 seconds to bounce back to energetic mode. In this way, people can get out of their depression state and overcome suicidal tendencies.
A Blueprint Build a Healthy Internal Dialogue
Here is a blueprint to build a healthy internal dialogue to provide a meaningful life and make a difference in the lives of others:
- Listen to your current thoughts and jot them down. Writing helps you analyze your thought process whether it is negative or positive. You can assess yourself from the kind of words you use. Reformat the words into positive and polished ones to build a strong internal dialogue.
- Find out your words whether they are negative, neutral, or positive. Replace the neutral and negative words with powerful words. For instance, use the words “I choose to” or “I get to” instead of “I have to” or “I need to”. Use positive language to strengthen your internal dialogue.
- Reflect your thoughts. Reflection gives rest to your mind and helps you take stock of the decisions you have made and how to proceed towards the future. Reflection also helps you reinvent and reinvigorate your mind. It helps you shift your internal dialogue into meaningful and healthy conversations.
- Avoid conflicts in your mind. Understand the realities.
- Reformat your mind with positive internal dialogue. Start thinking with positive words and language, and you will find a drastic improvement in your personality and quality of living.
It is natural that everyone talks to themselves. However, when we hear people talking aloud to themselves, we treat them as weird. It is quite common that everyone talks to themselves throughout the waking hours. Very few people know how to leverage this internal dialogue. Extraordinary achievers know how to utilize it effectively.
When you want to achieve your goals, you have to persuade yourself and talk to yourself regularly. It makes you believe in yourself and builds your confidence. Great achievers have the habit of talking to themselves positively to strengthen their subconscious minds. Hence, internal dialogue plays a crucial role to achieve success in your life.
It is rightly said that below-average individuals talk about individuals, average individuals talk about issues, and above-average individuals talk about ideas. The extraordinary achievers make use of their internal dialogue to explore ideas. They don’t waste their time thinking about negative people or issues. They don’t think of insignificant issues. On the other hand, they think of ideas for several problems and overcome their challenges successfully. To conclude, grease your wheels with your positive internal dialogue to become more successful. Don’t allow apprehensions and insecurities to enter your mind and guide your path. Instead, ensure that you make use of your thinking time by converting your internal dialogue into a healthy and meaningful one to achieve greater success in your life.