There’s a question that has to be asked: Do most women entrepreneurs and female executives put competence ahead of confidence to project themselves in the way they want to be perceived?
I’ve had the privilege of knowing some of the smartest female entrepreneurs and executives, I often come up against: “I could never say that about me — that’s bragging!”
You know what? Brag away! Don’t be shy.
I’m likely to be dead wrong here but in my own opinion, “less confident in their professional abilities” holds them back. Self-confidence in a leader many times creates trust and respect: powerful women are both confident and competent…and they know it!
This is a complex issue and a simplistic approach will not fully resolve it. And I’m sick of hearing that women are timid.
On her blog Mitch Shepard, founder of the WiRL (Women in Real Life) Leadership Summit wrote, “To the men in the room, this was unfathomable. In my experience, it’s very common.
As women, we often wait until we’re competent before we feel confident, whereas men often feel confident before they’ve achieved full competence.”
Now i want you to think about the playground. A girl admits a weakness and says “I feel so stupid not answering that simple question in school” and most girls around her will sympathise “Me TOO!” —- Now, here, you see, a girls learns showing vulnerability can bring her friends.
Now, at the same playground at the same time, if a boy admits a weakness more often than not he gets laughed at or pushed around ‘Yeah! Thick-head!’ He learns to hide weakness and lack of confidence.
Well vulnerability and modesty might make others like you, you’re not in business to be liked. Business is about basic survival. You need employees and managers to trust you, rely on your judgement and refer you to their contact. [image: @dell].
Do you think female executives and women entrepreneurs just need to step up to the plate? Or is there something else going on here?